04 nov 2015

What we hope for or 3 myths about life after marriage

This rather lengthy post provides an overview

For some reason, many people believe that a wedding is the solution to many problems, and waking up in the morning after a gorgeous wedding feast, the newly married husband and wife will look at each other differently, misunderstandings and worries will fall off by themselves, and love will multiply several times.

Nonsense. And mostly female ones.

Of course, you can't forbid believing in fairy tales and miracles (and you don't have to! This faith adorns our lives), but it's still not worth hoping for a wedding as a magical day that will completely change our lives and relationships. Love and understanding: either they are there or they are not.

Myth number 1. After the wedding, everything will change, a new, absolutely happy life will begin.

A stamp in a passport should not be considered as a kind of tool that normalizes relationships. They say he's my husband, I'm his wife, and legally and conscientiously we owe each other something now. Therefore, if he used to throw socks wherever he wanted and always said that "you're not my wife, don't boss me around," then believe me, it's absolutely not a fact that anything will change after "X-day." Most likely, he will say something like "take it and put it away - you're a wife"!

According to statistics, if the spouses had problems before marriage that worsened the quality of the relationship, they will worsen even more after marriage. After all, family life requires partners to change their already established lifestyle, and it leaves its mark in the form of additional social and material obligations. And if a couple didn't even try to live together for a while before the wedding, then it will be very difficult for two formed personalities to rebuild themselves and begin to adapt to the other. Therefore, it is a fact that in order for a marriage to be successful, stable, benevolent premarital relationships are necessary.

Myth # 2. After the wedding, I will reform him/her – it's not going anywhere!

There is a truth – if you are not satisfied with any quality of your partner, and you can not accept it in any way, write "gone" and do not even think about building a family relationship with this person. Why is it so cruel? Yes, because after a while anyway, the pink glasses will slide down your nose and what you didn't like slightly will become blatantly disliked. It is impossible to change human nature (especially if you are a well-formed personality, with your own habits, small weaknesses and lifestyle). And most often, even if your partner, loving you and knowing that you don't like something, will strive for "self-determination," the changes will only be temporary. Sadly, the crowd of guests, the first waltz, the long-awaited "yes", a brand-new outfit and other wedding paraphernalia will not become factors that transform a person's character. Never.

Myth # 3. After the wedding, he/she will stop spending a lot of time with friends, delete the numbers of all incomprehensible girlfriends / friends from the phone book, stop flirting and flirting.

Habits in communication with acquaintances, friends, relatives and just passers–by are a serious matter. They've been developing for years, long before you appeared in each other's lives. To rewrite the "schedule" of employment and communication, or simply to tell your partner that this or that is bad and not right, is equivalent to proving, for example, to an old yard dog that a bone is not food. Most often, against the background of a "little jealousy" for anything and anyone, disagreements arise: one does not like it, and the other does not think of his life without it and simply cannot understand what he is doing immorally. Therefore, when getting married, you need to be clearly aware that everything will remain in its place. Illusions should be discarded. You're adults!

A wedding is just a day, a celebration, even if it is so magical and long–awaited, but still a day. And people don't change dramatically in one day. Therefore, look at things realistically, objectively assess the shortcomings and advantages of your half and do not build illusions, hoping for a wedding as a tool for the transformation of your loved one. Our dedicated 1xBet promo code ensures you receive the full $130 welcome bonus. This offer is consistently updated to provide the best value to our readers. The bonus sum of $130 is a mix of free bets and casino bonuses. The 1xbet free promo code today is free and easy to implement. By using it, you guarantee yourself the maximum starting bonus. Don’t settle for less; get your $130 and enjoy a superior online betting experience from the start.
 

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